Sunday, March 8, 2015

The neurobiology of trauma

For international women's day, here is the opportunity for education.  Our brains change during trauma.  This is worth all 90 minutes.  Every single minute.

Sunday, September 21, 2014

Good questions

After a wonderful summer off from blogging, here I am. I had wonderful down time. Went to a LEAN conference. Read some great books. Sat on the beach.

Now I am back at it.

One of my favorite podcasts is the Andy Stanley Leadership podcast.  It's fabulous.

In one of his previous podcasts, he discussed permission-giving questions.  These are the questions he  asks his employees:

1. What are you most excited about right now?
2. What do you wish you could spend more time on?
3. What's most challenging? Generally a systems problem.
4. Anything bugging you? Home, person, etc
5. What can I do to help you?

Simple yet great questions.

I get a few inquiries from readers and just people in general asking what questions are good questions to ask a supervisor. Especially a supervisor that doesn't give much feedback.  These are my favorites:

What do you want me to keep doing?
What do you want me to start doing?
What do you want me to stop doing?

Simple yet great questions.

Give 'em a try!

Friday, May 23, 2014


What do you make?  It's such a personal question and when I see the question on job postings and application requirements, it makes me seethe.  A little. Or more than a little.

I say one human resources position that required a complete salary history for every position listed on the resume.  Those not including salary histories would not be considered.

What the?

  < rant >

Here is the thing.  What I make is absolutely none of your business.  You aren't entitled to know my salary history nor do you have any right to ask me what I make now.

If you, human resources people, make it a requirement to provide, you are saying a lot.  About you. The word that comes to mind is lazy.

What I expect of good employers is to conduct compensation studies, evaluate market conditions, and  offer fair salaries.  It's not that hard.  Lots and lots of professional organizations can help with salary surveys.

Quit expecting job applicants to do your work for you.

< /rant >

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Something to consider

Ever heard these comments? Or thought them?

Her skirt was too short.  She was asking for it. What was she doing walking there at that hour?

This should help.

The next time you read about a victim of sexual assault, please remember this video.

Sunday, April 20, 2014

Taking time to read

While I have been woefully negligent in writing, I am can say with great enthusiasm, it's because I have been reading.

Reading some really good stuff.

One of my favorite topics right now is mediation. Not meditation, mediation.  A fabulous book on the subject if The Mediation Process by Christopher Moore.  All 600 pages of it.

Speaking of mediation, if you are in the Grand Rapids area, the Dispute Resolution Center of West Michigan is holding its General Civil Mediation training. To say that it's life changing doesn't do the training or the trainers justice; if you are interested, sign up.  It's fantastic.

I have also discovered Net Galley.  I have a number of fabulous books in the pipeline as well.  Currently, I am reviewing a book for first time job hunters.  Best thing?  All the books are free!

Happy reading.